First, Are You Making This Mistake?
If you're feeling like you need some advice on how to talk to women, it's probably because you're making the common mistake of getting into "approaching mode." What does this mean? It means that every time you see a woman you're attracted to, a complete shift happens in your mind and body. You start to feel nervous, under pressure, you start scrambling for things to say, you start worrying about whether or not she's going to reject you.
Does this sound familiar to you? If so, you might be thinking that every other man on the planet feels this way... even those who are experts in how to talk to women. But that's not the case. Men who know how to approach women do it as a completely natural process. They speak to women they are attracted to the same way they would speak to any regular person who they meet. In other words, they don't experience all this additional fear and anxiety and other emotional baggage which plagues the common man.
Why is this and how do you get yourself in a different mindset?
Go Against the Grain
Knowing how to talk to women isn't common knowledge, and so most men go about it the wrong way: They compliment her on her looks, they ask her name, they try to direct the conversation towards getting a date or getting a phone number. In other words, most men make the mistake of telegraphing interest right off the bat and putting himself one step below the woman.
Then, they proceed to try and treat the interaction like a business deal. They go right for the close, and completely deprive the interaction of any kind of mystery, playfulness or romance. In other words, they don't know how to talk to women because they're too busy thinking like men. Men are bottom-line thinkers who like to go right for the jugular.
But women are more indirect and prefer their interactions with men to be natural and to have some sense of mystery and ambiguity. Of course, men hate this and just wish that women would be more direct about what they want... and this is why most men are clueless about how to talk to women and how to attract women.
If you want different results, you have to learn to do things differently.
Master the Art of Indirect Communication
Did you know that the secret to knowing how to talk to women is being able to send them mixed signals and to build curiosity, mystery and suspense? This means that you communicate as if you're not that interested in them, yet you give them small subtle signs that tell them you are interested in them. For example, light touches when you talk to them, playful little jabs that suggest you might be attracted to her... but which leave some mystery.
This is the art of indirect communication, and women find it mysterious, challenging and attractive. These may be things which would frustrate a man, but which are essential to knowing how to talk to women.